Wednesday, January 6, 2010

My Nephew and Ralph Waldo Emerson


        One of the many reasons I enjoyed teaching Emerson was his belief in self-actualization.

        This was long before the word ‘self ’ became a sign for all that is wrong with the world.

        Emerson’s self-actualization is not self-centeredness.

         It is found in those perfect moments in time, often unknown to those in the moment.

        I have been a witness to just such moments, in a small high school gym in South Texas ,where my nephew plays varsity basketball. I have mentioned this before, but in my heart, it bears repeating.

        This is not about wins or losses, but rather his skill and grace and his unselfishness.  He likes to pass and share the ball with his teammates as much as he enjoys shooting.

        Can the love and legacy of being the third Jim Mills in the room (gym) be measured? Because you see my nephew is Trey, as in tres, as in the third.

        Jim Mills , Sr. and Jim Mills, Jr. are watching; Uncle John and Aunt Laura are watching; his mother is watching. We are all watching Jim Mills, III.

        One last virtue in this self-actualization business:  when you strive to be humble, and you are raised to not brag and all that that includes, it is SO MUCH FUN to read things like this in the local newspaper.

Feel the Roar- here come the San Isidro Tigers…the Tigers can thank newcomers like Trey Mills for their recent success…It has been the 6’5” Mills making noise. Mills leads the team averaging 14.1 points and 10.5 rebounds per game. Mills is also notching three blocks per outing.”

        abridged excerpt from The Monitor, McAllen, Texas

         One of those perfect moments in time.  Emerson would approve. Aunt Laura sure does.


donna baker said...

Laura, kudos to the III. I had to tell you that the song Fields of Gold by Sting is one of my favs. Love the one you have.

Debra@CommonGround said...

Wow, what an awesome young man. Someone has been leading by example, maybe I and II? I think he certainly deserves that pot roast! So glad that you can be there to cheer him on. He's one that deserves the pats on the back. Team spirit and humility. a great combination!

Anonymous said...

What a sweet post! I believe one of the greatest gifts we can give our children is to be able to play or be part of a team and look outside of ourselves. Your nephew sounds like a wonderful young man.

Karen said...

Go, Trey!! We'll be there to watch you at some point... we are hoping. Why do these crazy days of work and commitments have to spoil the fun???
6'5"... my goodness... what happened to that little toddler I used to watch in the driveway of his grandparents home?
Great posting, "Aunt Laura".
Ladybug Creek

Deb said...

that is wonderful athelete that is humble....not many of those around these should be proud of your nephew...

Lisa said...

This brings back so many good memories for me! My oldest son, who is now a college Jr.,was a high school basketball player. High school basketball is so thrilling to watch, especially when you're cheering for a particular player. They truly possess an unadulterated love of the game, don't they? Your nephew is a wonderful young man and with his skills and height (Wow.6'5") I bet you'll be cheering him on in college B'ball.:)

Theresa said...

Oh how sweet! I know you are proud of him and happy others recognize his accomplishments. My grandson, 11 years old, is playing upwards basketball with the Church. He loves to shoot but at the game Saturday, I was admiring the way they teach them to pass to others so they can shoot too. Neat! Have a blessed evening Dear Laura!

Sandra said...

How awesome for him. We lived by those same rules in this household. Never brag, but always be humble, for if you are truly great or accomplished or successful, you will never have to tell it. Others will. xoxo

trash talk said...

Normally with being a third, I would wonder if he would be able to fill the shoes of the previous two, but being 6'5", I bet his feet are big enough to do the trick and with such a supportive family, his head won't get in the way. Aunt Laura, you have every reason to be proud and shout it to the world. He seems like a fine young man.

Dixie said...

Laura... your pride is showing... ;) and fine pride it is my dear...and so well deserved... I bet he is the apple of his mama's eye... (and maybe Aunt Laura a little too...)

and hey! did you take that action shot! great job!

Blue Creek Home said...

That boy can jump!!!! I know you all must be so proud of him!
Nice post.


Jeanette said...

I know you are proud of him! Make him pot roast and tell his story over and over. That is what they make Aunts for!

DKG aka Scrappy Doo said...

What a great story
He sounds like a great kid :-)

Lynn said...

Very sweet and so meaningful.
I can see why you are proud!

June said...

Laura what an amazing post! You must be so proud.

Simple Home said...

I loved the story, especially when I got to the part about Jr. and Sr. watching. Sounds like a wonderful extended family you have there!

I Do Declare said...

You're a sweet aunt!


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